Marriage is a very big deal in India. It has occupied such a huge space in our psyche that we spend more than half of our waking life either thinking or talking about it
But one thing that either escapes everyone’s psyche or rather the one thing that not many people want to talk about is ‘MARITAL RAPE’. If there is someone who wants to know what people in our society really think about this subject go to ‘ScoopWhoopUnscripted’ on YouTube and watch their video on Marital Rape.
There are people from judiciary, politics and the rest of our society who actually believe that criminalizing marital rape will ‘destabilize the institution of marriage’. It would be fair to ask if we really need an institution like this which does nothing to prevent the exploitation of women
Those same people also tell us that criminalizing marital rape may lead to a number of fraudulent cases against men. A statement like this simply indicates two things: mistrust of married women in general & failure of our legal and medical system to separate fake rape claims from the genuine ones.
Marriage is a contract between two people to live together but what is the use of such a contract when one party can use it as a tool to take away the rights of the very person he marries and leave them completely helpless.
It’s sad to see that families plan for their daughter’s marriage even before she is born; have the audacity to call their daughters ‘Paraya Dhan’ (Translation: Someone else’s money); treat her as a burden to be literally disposed of (in most cases) to the mercy of some other family; put themselves under an immense financial, psychological and physiological burden to plan and execute the whole function of marriage but don’t even ask their government for a single piece of legislation that can help heir daughters have a ‘Safe married life’ instead of just having a ‘Happy Marriage’.
It really tells you a lot about who we are if we keep celebrating someone getting married but fall silent as soon as the safety of that very person comes into question.